Custody & Temporary Separations – a Sims 4 Mod

Relationship& Pregnancy Overhaul, Mod #10

——–  II. Module 10: Separations ——–

Custody & visit system, in case of permanent separations

Splitting of estate / funds, in case of permanent separations

Amicable or non-amicable permanent separation

o Break-Ups and divorces can be attempted amicably. If one of the parties involved is against the divorce, it may still go sour, but there is a good chance that the amicable approach makes things easier for both sims involved. They can this way stay in good terms and have special interactions.

– In case of amicable separations, no bad sentiments will come.

Upon divorcing, the Sim asking for the separation will explain why.

o NOT READY YET: In future updates, tying in to another mod I am developping (Law and Disorder), there will be a few secret options reserved for Evil / mean Sims 😉 should they be available for everyone? These sims may go to extreme lengths to get what they want, such as getting a spouse to feed a cowplant hoping the plant will be in a bad mood that day, trying to go visit Sixam together and leaving them behind, and other terrible schemes.

If the separation is AMICABLE: Sims will discuss custody and the player will decide it.

If the separations is NOT AMICABLE: sims will go to court and custody will be decided on factors such as income, housing, child’s preference, and a bit of chance.

NOTE: if you want to decide outcomes for a not amicable separation, or have random outcomes for an amicable one – use the interactions under “Actions” which let you do that by using “Go to court” if amicable, or “Discuss Custody” if not amicable.

NOTE 2: You can cancel custody arrangements (and then later re-do them from the “actions” menu) under ‘custody’ when clicking your own played sim.

NOTE 3: Auto removal of custody: Normally, once a child ages up to Young Adult, custody for them should be automatically removed. If Sims re-marry their ex, permanent separation and custody will also be removed.

NOTE 4: Custody availability: available to married sims, Significant Others, and any Sim separating through my system, directly under the normal menus. For other cases (parents with no relationship, etc), so long as they had a child together after this mod was installed, they should have the options under ‘Actions’ instead of under the normal menus.

o When visiting another parent, children may be happy or annoyed (sometimes they just want to be ‘at home’) – annoyance being more likely for teens.

General note about custody visits: Many things in the game may happen to make it so that a child will not transfer back exactly at the planned time, because the process could not happen right then. Don’t panic, there are plenty of fail-safe systems built in so that the transfer will be attempted again until it goes through.

– more detail on custody visit (timed): timed one-time visits are extremely effective at sending the child back to its starting household. If a sim is at work or something else at the time of transfer, and prevents the transfer from happening, no worries! Invite on lot the other parent and the child will transfer back. You could also travel, reload household, etc, the kid will transfer no problem. There is also an interaction to ‘send child back early’ or ‘get child back early‘ which can also be used for that, if you don’t want to invite sims or reload etc.

more detail on custody visits (cyclical / shared custody): those might fail to send the kid back right away a bit more often. If a child on shared custody / cyclical visit is not getting sent back / coming back right at the end of the visit, just either invite the other parent / the child on lot, reload your household or load the household with the child. This should bring the child back to its family of origin. You can also use an interaction to ‘end scheduled visit early‘ by clicking on the custody parent, or on the visiting child, depending on which household you are playing.

If using this system, you must accept and understand that delays may happen and the time frames indicated are minimums and will be used if the game can let processes through, but visits may pan out over longer if the game failed to apply transfer processes at the scheduled time.

Child Support

  • If you don’t remove the ‘Child Support Trigger’ file, child support will be determined upon ‘Settling Estate’ during a separation.
  • It is based on who has custody.
  • You can cancel child support for a child at any time from the “custody” menu.
  • Upon age-up to Young Adult, it should cancel automatically.

o Child Support and similar monetary concerns. Separated Sims will participate towards the financial charge of their growing children.

(UPCOMING) Co-Parenting Elements

o NOT READY YET: this bit is not released yet. In addition to being able to have the child go to the other parent, there are occasional phone calls / happenings to / from the other parent regarding the children, asking to take action or just giving information. For example, there is a school trip for one of the kids, and the other parent is asked for a bit of money to help cover the costs of the school trip. Or, the sim must work extra and wonders if the other parent can take the kids that night.

  • You can remove custody arrangements or child support for any child under ‘family and pregnancy’ then ‘custody’. (you can then re-do custody under ‘actions’ when clicking on the ex if you want).
  • You can switch permanent separation mood (amicable or angry) by clicking on the ex, going under ‘actions’ then ‘woohoo wellness mod’.
  • You can remove a permanent separation by clicking on the ex, going under ‘actions’ then ‘woohoo wellness mod’.


11 thoughts on “Custody & Temporary Separations – a Sims 4 Mod

  1. Hello, I’ve downloaded the mod but can’t seem to get them to divorce & split custody this way? it allows me to let them seperate but the only divorce option I have is the the original game’s divorce option. I’ve tried three different families and still got the same result. I don’t get access to the custodies screen or alimony, if Im lucky I MIGHT collect child support but the game does that automatically and doesn’t let me pick the process.

  2. Hiiii,
    I absolutely LOVE your mod thank you so much! I just have a really random question
    My sim cheated on her husband and got pregnant with his child and not her husbands. She has told him it’s his child (lie) and he’s found out it’s not after asking for proof of paternity. If they now split up, will her husband be able to get custody since he’s not the biological father? She doesn’t want the child and neither does her fling, only the husband does

  3. Hey, would it be possible to bring back the reason for breaking up and if it is an amicable separation or not? The option to choose was the best. 🙂 <3

    1. Heya, that’s still in the mod. If you don’t see it on a particular sim, it is because they predate the update. Thing have changed so it’ll be only on new Sims from there but it’s still there

  4. Hi!! LOVE THIS MOD, I wish the other parent could go back to court to fight after losing custody or go back to court later and fight for more custody and the child/teen picks whom to live with. I LOVE this MOD MUST HAVE!!!

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